Monthly Archives: October 2012

6 Foods That Will Boost Your Libido

Poor libido often underlies a bigger issue like inflammation that can impair energy production and blood flow, both of which are important for a healthy sex drive.
If this is a concern of yours, there are many steps you can take to get your body re-energized, including adding some key foods to your diet. Although there are a number of so-called superfoods that specifically boost libido, if your current diet is unhealthy, simply eating them may not give you the result you’re looking for. To boost libido organically requires that you obtain true health from within.
The good news is that you can incorporate some common foods into a healthy diet that will help to reduce inflammation, increase blood flow throughout the body, and raise your energy. In fact, these foods will not only help you feel better, they will also make you look better, which will do wonders for your libido. Here are six, everyday foods you should be eating:
1. Fish. Wild caught salmon is a great source of the omega-3 fatty acids EPA and DHA that help maintain the fluidity of our cell membranes. They keep our cardiovascular systems healthy by reducing inflammation, preventing excessive blood clotting, and keeping fats in the blood at healthy levels.
2. Avocados. Yes, avocados are high in fat, but they’re also high in healthy fats like omega-9 and omega-3. They’re anti-inflammatory, so they support a healthy cardiovascular system and blood sugar regulation. In addition, they’re high in fiber and rich in antioxidants like vitamin C, the fat-soluble vitamin K, folate, and B vitamins.
3. Watermelon. Watermelon is rich in a chemical called citrulline (iv) that helps make nitric oxide, which dilates blood vessels. It also contains the phytonutrient lycopene and beta-carotene, which act as antioxidants, protecting our cells. This is the perfect time of the year to enjoy it; don’t be afraid to eat the white part of the watermelon rind where much of the citrulline is found, either. To maximize the nutrients, (if you buy the fruit whole,) leave it at room temperature until it’s cut, then store the leftovers in the fridge. Eat it right off the rind or in a fruit salad.
4. Nuts. Nuts such as walnuts, almonds, hazelnuts, and pecans are a good source of L-arginine which gets converted into nitric oxide. Walnuts also contain a plant-based omega 3 fat that’s necessary for a healthy cardiovascular system. Add a few to your morning oatmeal, add them to salads, or have a handful as an afternoon snack.
5. Leafy Greens. Fresh spinach, kale, collards, arugula, mustard greens, as well as herbs like parsley and oregano c ontain high amounts of chlorophyll, which is purifying to the blood and helps to increase blood flow. Some, like kale, also contain essential fatty acids like omega 3 and 6. They’re a rich source of vitamins. Eat them in salads, steamed, or juiced with other veggies and fruits.


Sex On the Outside: An Exhibitionists Guide to Great Sex.

Exhibitionism is a great little technique for helping to boost the excitement levels in your love making. It’s about all the places you can go for a seemingly innocent exhibitionist date.
In the way that sneaking around behind your parents’ backs may have been thrilling when you were teenagers, the possibility of being caught with your pants down, literally, can give your sex life a little extra jolt of electricity when things are feeling a bit ho-hum.
Take some simple precautions and bring everything you will need to be both inconspicuous and safe. If you and your lover have never engaged in any kind of exhibitionist outdoor play, don’t spring it on her at the spur of the moment in a public place. Talk a bit about your fantasies in a different setting and see how she feels about it – she may enjoy the spontaneous sex-date, but you won’t know until you ask. Find out first if she’s interested before planning a big to-do or you may both end up disillusioned and disappointed in the outcome.

The Backyard
For first-timers, the back yard is a great place to start. If you are lucky and have a pool, try some sun bathing or skinny dipping to get you started. Make sure that your neighborhood kids can’t see into the yard. You can use a tent to cover up a bit – try angling it towards the garden or some thick bushes, so you can leave the door open and still get that fresh, outdoor feeling.

The Beach
Plan ahead to avoid getting sand in your most sensitive areas, bring lots of sunblock, and find a nice secluded location with lots of dunes or grasses. Beware of bugs (bug spray is handy too!) and don’t get caught. If there are nude beaches nearby, you might find this a good way to warm up and enjoy the sun on your skin, but don’t expect that “nude beach” means “wild swinger party” – most nudists will not appreciate catching you mid-coitus any more than any clothed passerby. DO NOT have sex in the water. The force of your thrusting can push water past your lover’s cervix and cause irritation, inflammation or even infection. Yikes!

The Car
The extra shy can gain some cover in their car. Check your local fetish and adult listings for “dogging” meetup groups – people who enjoy watching and being watched while having sex in cars!

The Hot tub

After all those warnings about water… hot tub sex is great because you can stand up and have sex out of the water, while still taking advantage of the warmth and rhythmic force the water provides. Have her bend over the edge of the tub, or sit on the edge yourself and have her sit on your lap facing away from you. You can also enjoy some non-penetrative play in a hot tub – the water will make hand jobs fun and easy, and she can get some very interesting clitoral stimulation from the jets. Be careful that the water coming out of them isn’t too hot – those parts are sensitive! – and give her a little help by engaging in lots of foreplay. Let the hot tub do the difficult work and focus on enjoying lots of kissing, cuddling, and caressing.

The Park
A quiet (deserted) park is a great place for some very sneaky sex. Have her sit innocently in your lap, on a bench or in the grass, and grind a bit until you are both aroused. Slowly unzip your pants (or if it’s a hot summer day, wear shorts or a bathing suit with an open fly) and insert. She can rock back and forth slowly, and you will probably look like you are dry-humping to people who might see you. If you do this late enough at night, behind some bushes, you probably won’t get caught. Probably…

This same technique also works well on public transportation, if you are into that sort of thing. For a more private and natural setting, head for the woods. The further you hike from civilization before setting up camp, the more private your excursion should be.

The Wall
Up against a wall works just about anywhere, when you can’t wait until you get home. Be discreet – the skirt and no panties works to keep you both “covered up” but there will be little question what you are doing. This is risky business if you are in an area where public exposure is a serious crime, so don’t take this decision lightly. Try sex and on-premise swinger clubs for the safest locations.

Orgasms: Keep You Young And Healthy

Orgasms would not only help you stay healthy by preventing you from diseases but will also keep you looking younger, researchers say.

They have revealed that the Big O creates a natural chemical reaction that’s better for your health and wellbeing than any pill. Having orgasm has been shown to beat stress and depression, relieve pain and reduce your risk of breast and prostate cancer, the Sun reported.
According to a cosmetic dermatologist, “Orgasms increase blood flow to the skin by stimulating the parasympathetic nervous system, causing blood vessels in the skin to open up, creating a flushed look.”
In this process, the body releases bucketloads of an anti-ageing steroid hormone that keeps you looking young.
Orgasms may result in fewer colds, as researchers say having sex once or twice a week is linked with higher levels of immunoglobulin A, or IgA, an antibody in your saliva that helps your immune system to fight off bugs.
It could be a better alternative to sleeping pills as research has found that the oxytocin released during an orgasm promotes sleep.
It may also help protect your heart.

Britain’s first orgasm coach, Dr Lisa Turner, said: “If you don’t want to have a heart attack, have an orgasm. A study in Israel found women with a higher incidence of heart disease had fewer orgasms and vice versa.”
Regular sex could beat stress.
During orgasm, the brain releases a cocktail of endorphins, including serotonin, a key ingredient in Prozac.
Prolactin is also released, which has a “calming effect”.
Researchers also found that regular orgasms can lower blood pressure and stress.
Research has shown that regular sex is important when it comes to the prevention of prostate cancer later in life. It cleanses the prostate gland as semen is expelled during an orgasm. It also bolsters levels of testosterone, which may help to protect the heart.
Both men and women who rarely have an orgasm are around 25% more likely to be diagnosed with breast cancer, researchers in Greece found.
It may be key to your youthful look. Couples who make love at least three times a week appeared on average ten years younger than those who had sex twice a week or less, according to a study.
“It makes us happy and produces chemicals that directly enhance the body and mind,” said Dr David Weeks, a neuropsychologist from the Royal Edinburgh Hospital.
A study carried out in New Jersey also found that women who had regular orgasms were better able to cope with the pain of arthritis and whiplash.
Keep up being a better lover.


Ever heard of female hysteria?

A little fun fact today…
In the 1800s, Female Hysteria was a common medical diagnosis given only to women that exhibited a wide array of symptoms…Including nervousness, insomnia; even the desire to make love… and the list goes on and on.
Almost any “ailment” could fit the diagnosis. Obviously hysteria is a totally bogus female medical condition and is no longer recognized by modern medicine…
However, what’s interesting is that it led to the invention of the vibrator.
You see, the common treatment for hysteria was to give the woman “experiencing symptoms” an orgasm!

Of course manually stimulating all these women would have been a lot of work, so along came the vibrator to make the doc’s job easier
I can only imagine the lines outside the doctor’s office back then, lol.
During the 20th century, diagnoses of hysteria were on sharp decline…Hysteria was considered a “catchall diagnosis” where any unidentifiable ailment could be assigned.
As diagnostic techniques improved for other ailments the number of diagnoses kept lowering until nothing was left to be considered hysteria.
What’s interesting is the basic treatment goal for hysteria was to “relax” the woman.
And what better way to relax a woman than giving her a mind blowing orgasm! So the next time your woman is having a bad day or just seems to be a little stressed out, take her in the bedroom (or any room for that matter) and give her a mind bending orgasm.
And you never know an orgasm a day, might just keep the doc away.

Keep up being a better lover.


Random Sex Tip on Breast

Breasts are great to look at…and DEFINITELY fun to play with…but there’s a lot more to them than meets the eye…
Yes, I’m talking about a girl’s breasts ; and the better you handle them…the MORE and BETTER she’ll handle you!
Her entire breast area is SUPER PACKED with nerves and super sensitive because of it!

So tonight…after you take off her blouse…first use your fingers to trace a T-shape across the top of her breasts and down in between them…then move your finger underneath her breasts and trace a U-shape along the underside…
NEXT…make the letter N with your finger by tracing up along one side of her breast…then down between both…and up along the other…
If you REALLY wanna take it up a notch…start circling your finger closer and closer in towards her nipple…the path should look like a corkscrew hehe!

Once you’re really got her hot and heaving…trace your tongue along the same exact path as your fingers…
Make a “C” with one hand…then massage underneath one breast while you lick circles around the other nipple…
Now…for a SUPER advanced move that’ll drive her absolutely WILD with torture…
Tell her you won’t touch her “area” until she figures out what word you’re spelling with your fingers
and tongue…and confuse her by jumbling and twisting the letters C.U.N.T…hehe!
This should REALLY drive her over the edge!
And that’s just a simple way to give her an EXTRA SPECIAL surprise when you play with her tonight…
It’s ok if you forget what patterns to trace or in what order…just remember to use your favorite letters C, U, N, and T! Hehe =)

Keep up being a better lover.



Oral sex (sometimes referred to as cunnilingus) is basically a sexual activity involving the stimulation of the genitals of a sex partner using the tongue, throat, mouth or teeth.
Description, kinds and positions of oral sex have been analyzed in previous articles on the blog so I won’t bore you with all that right now.
I have sat through endless girl-gist times, listening to my friends regale me with tales of how their men never go down on them. While receiving oral sex isn’t every girl’s cup of tea, through research, I have found that a lot of them won’t mind experiencing the sensation. I don’t claim to be a sex health expert but I imagine that the appeal of getting oral sex as opposed to the penis penetration has to do with the fact that having the tongue down there is less aggressive and deliciously tentative. Who doesn’t love being teased? So I definitely understand why a gal’s hottest sexual fantasy would involve a little tongue action.
So, why are most guys resistant to tasting the precious nectar that gets the girl going gaga? Well, it could be for one or more of the reasons below;
Your Vagina Smells Bad
Okay, while we can all agree that the vagina is one of the two self-cleaning body parts we have (the other one is the eye), sometimes, the vagina can give off a foul odor if not taken care off.
Get some mild feminine wash and get rid of that putrid smell. Take a shower before sex when you can. If this doesn’t work then you might be suffering from a form of Sexually Transmitted Disease or a toilet infection. Infected vagina has the tendency to produce smelly discharge no matter how many times you wash or douche, so see a doctor immediately.
He is Just not That Into You
While this reason is mostly saddening it just might be the case. If a man is not really into you he won’t want to participate in a very intimate act like oral sex, all he’ll want is the actual sexual act and he’s on his way. So if you feel like this is the reason then get your ass out the door and find a man that really likes you and is willing to do anything to keep you satisfied.

You Don’t Shave
While I must applaud most women for their attention to detail when it comes to grooming their vagina area, some still don’t shave. This just might be the reason why your man is reluctant to perform cunnilingus on you, a bushy vagina is a serious turn off for most men, no one wants to be picking out pubic hairs from their teeth with a toothpick afterwards. So do your man a favour, get a clean shave or better still wax it!
He Just Doesn’t Want To
Yes, he probably just doesn’t want to be bothered with the intricacies of eating your ‘snail’, just like some women, some men also do not like to go down south. I have even heard some Nigerian men say it is a ‘traditional thing’ and they feel it is an insult for a woman to expect them to perform what they see as a vile act. Well, your man just might fit into this type so don’t worry your pretty little head about it, its not you, its him.
So ladies, don’t deny yourself this orgasm-inducing experience. And fellas, if she goes down on you, it’s only fair you do the same.
Keep up being a better lover.

3 Ways To Last Longer In Bed

If you’re looking to buy some time before reaching climax, rather than hitting up your doctor for meds, check out the following tips.

Stop-Start Technique
You need to get used to building your arousal to where you’re almost at that point of no return. Start stimulation, but as soon as you feel you’re getting too aroused, simply pause for a brief moment—about 5 to 10 seconds—and let your arousal subside. After repeating this technique a few times, feel free to release.
Squeeze Technique
As soon as you feel you’re getting close, stop stimulation and squeeze right below the head of your penis. It’s best to focus the pressure on the urethra—the tube running along the underside of the penis—because this will temporarily represses your ejaculatory response. Once your arousal has died down, repeat a few more times before reaching climax.
Rely On Rubbers
Another useful technique for pushing back your ejaculatory response is to wear a desensitizing condom. These products contain the desensitizing lubricant benzocaine, so it will buy you a few more minutes in the sack. But something to keep in mind: Make sure you’re not putting the condom on inside out, otherwise the Benzocaine will end up inside her vagina.
Keep up being a better lover.