Monthly Archives: September 2012

Kunyaza- the African secret to the female orgasm

Experts say that 70% of women do not orgasm with vaginal penetration alone. Nsekuye Bizimana, the author of The Secret to African love, decided to help women all over the world by writing a book especially for men, in which he tells them about kunyaza, an ancient sexual technique practiced widely in Central and Eastern Africa.
Nsekuye Bizimana, the head of a research institute dedicate to kunyaza, is convinced that this technique holds the secret to female orgasm. Transmitted orally, the art of kunyaza, “the magical caress”, as they call it in Rwanda, is said to be so effective that most women have multiple orgasms and even an ejaculation.

How does it works?
It’s basically a really intense of a woman’s private parts. You have to tap the internal area of your girlfriend’s vagina with the tip of your penis either vertically or horizontally, or both, however you feel like it. Don’t forget to pay attention to the clitoris also, but make sure she is well lubricated; otherwise she might find the tapping on her most sensitive zone disturbing. If you do it well, your girlfriend should be able to have an orgasm in approximately five minutes.

What if I get tired?
I know, you’re putting a lot of pressure on your wrists to continually tap for minutes on end. When you feel your hand can’t take it anymore, pass the job to your girlfriend, she will love to be a part of it. Another way she could help you is by exposing her most sensitive parts, so that you have an easier access inside her. If you reach and tap your girlfriend’s prostate, located behind the G point, which is a highly erogenous point, Bizimana says you could consider the job done. She’ll orgasm before you even know it!

From kunyaza to intercourse
If you want to use this technique as foreplay, go ahead and do it. Your girlfriend will be ready and excited and, because of the tapping, your penis will grow more erect and hard, which would make intercourse a viable and pleasurable option. Also, if you’re fighting erectile problems, this method is great for curing them. Bizimana conducted a study that confirmed the effectiveness of this trick against issues like that.

Kunyaza + fingering = A tornado of emotions!
A twist I suggest is to try to mix this recent discovery with fingering technique. Man, you will be glad you did! The roughness of penis tapping against vagina combined with the softness of the fingers will be incredible. You will lose count of orgasm. So start by stimulating your girlfriend with your fingers, covering both the exterior and the interior parts of her sex and finish her off with a nice dose of tapping. Don’t stop after the first orgasm, unless she had one so powerful that she needs a moment to catch her breath. If she’s ok with you continuing, go back to kissing and licking and then tapping again. She’ll reach seventh heaven!
Keep up being a Better lover.


How To Increase Female Sex Drive After Having a Child

The time after you give birth is a joyous and emotional time. After nine long months of pregnancy, you will greet the arrival of your baby with great anticipation. It may seem impossible that anything could make you wish for those days when you were still pregnant. Unfortunately, the time after delivery often marks a drastic change in their sexual desire. While most women—and men—expect changes in their sex life immediately after the birth of a child, as the weeks turn into months it is normal for both partners to wonder when, and if, things will ever return to normal.

Step 1
Talk to your doctor. Never assume that a loss of libido is all in your head. Talk to your doctor about how your libido has changed since you gave birth. Your health care provider can help rule out physical problems as well as reassure you that lower libido is normal after birth.

Step 2
Deal with fatigue. Nap during the day or ask your partner to take over some of the nighttime feedings, so you can get enough rest. It is impossible to look forward to sex when you are sleep deprived.
Step 3
Remove the pressure. Talk honestly with your spouse about your lack of sex drive. Remember, he is a new parent also, and is likely experiencing many conflicting emotions as well. Reassuring your spouse that you find him attractive and are working on increasing your sex drive can help ease the pressure on both of you.
Step 4
Prepare for sex. Before hitting the sheets, take the time for a warm bath, a glass of wine or anything else that will help you relax and get you in the mood. This type of prep work may seem like a waste of time, but it is important to help your body transition from “mommy mode” to wife and lover.
Step 5
Use a lubricant. It is hard to look forward to something that is painful. Hormonal changes after birth can make intercourse uncomfortable. Adding lubrication can ease the discomfort and make sex more enjoyable.
Step 6
Just do it. Sex drive is complicated, and sometimes, if you don’t use it, you lose it. You may need to go ahead and have sex sometimes, even when you’re not in the mood. No one expects you to participate in something you don’t want to do, but sometimes it takes a little nudge to get the libido back into gear. Once you get over the hurdle of not being in the mood, you may just find that you are enjoying yourself.

Keep up being a Better lover


A-Spot Orgasms

I’m going to share with you a pleasure zone on a woman that will give her some of the most intense mind blowing orgasms she’s ever felt.

The area is called the A-Spot and very few men or women know about it in our modern culture.
This is too bad because once you understand how to pleasure this part of a woman you will be able to give her orgasms unlike any man has given her before.
I Must Warn You…That With Great Power Comes Great Responsibility
A-Spot orgasms are very powerful and often times cause the woman’s body to shake in ecstasy and sometimes give her tears of joy.
Few men take the time to understand a woman and give them this level of sexual pleasure, and these women knew they were not likely to find a man who could do this to them again.
I’m going to start out by covering a few of the basics, including commanding respect and trust, and the difference between clitoral and vaginal orgasms to refresh you because these things are very important to understand.

Women Are Pleasure Deprived Creatures!
Did you know that 30% of women have never had an orgasm? Did you also know that 70% of women have never had an orgasm during sex?
Not only has this but over half of all women claimed to have faked an orgasm. Just think about how sexually satisfied the woman in your life will be when you give her a powerful vaginal orgasm!
For some it could be the first time they ever have a vaginal orgasm!
You Must Command Her Respect And Trust First
It is very important to understand that in order to give a woman an orgasm you must be able to steer her body as well as her mind.
It’s important that the woman has a high level of respect and trust towards you. This will allow her to completely let go and give herself to you fully, both body and mind.
A woman’s mind might be her biggest obstacle keeping her from having an orgasm.
Confident women usually have an easier time reaching orgasm because they don’t let their insecurities or fear get in the way. Shy or self-conscious women might take more time before they respond and let themselves go.
It is also important to realize that all sexual techniques will get better as you get to know the woman and gauge her individual responses to different touches.
Each woman you encounter will be different, in how she likes to be stimulated. Take the time to understand this and you will get better with each woman you meet!

The Two Types of Female Orgasms
Clitoral Orgasm- This is the most common way a woman usually orgasms. It’s how a woman typically masturbates and how she is used to being stimulated.
The clitoris is located outside the vagina and can be stimulated using your finger or tongue. You can also rub it during intercourse to enhance her stimulation.
You can get great responses from women and give them powerful orgasms using clitoral stimulation.
This article does not cover clitoral orgasms in detail, but I wanted to mention it here to point out that there is a difference between clitoral and vaginal orgasms.
Women are used to men giving them (or at least trying to give them) clitoral orgasms.
Let’s move on so we can talk about what this article is really about, deep full body vaginal orgasms.
Vaginal Orgasm- This is an orgasm caused by stimulating the inside of the vagina. This is a much deeper, full body orgasm for a woman.

Of all women who are able to achieve orgasm, only 30% have had a vaginal orgasm.
All women are capable of achieving a vaginal orgasm, but some don’t think they can and some don’t even KNOW they can!
There are two “spots” in the vagina that when stimulated correctly will give a woman a powerful orgasm. These two spots are the “G Spot” and the “A Spot”.

The A-Spot
The A-Spot is located about 3 1⁄2 to 4 inches inside of the vagina. This area is no longer spongy, but has more of a smooth feeling. Unlike the G Spot that is only located on the front wall of the vagina, the A-Spot is sensitive all the way around.
The A-Spot is located in the deepest parts of the vagina just before the Cervix. The back of the A-Spot is slightly deeper because this part of the vagina is tilted.
Stimulation to the front and sides of the A-Spot is very pleasurable to a woman. Stimulation of the back of the A-Spot can also be pleasurable but might feel strange to her at first.
Some women explain stimulation to the back of the A-Spot almost feels like she’s being “butt fucked” at first, but pleasure gets very intense once she’s used to it.
As a general rule you don’t want to touch a woman’s Cervix, it may be very uncomfortable for her.
The Cervix is just above the A-Spot and some describe it as saying, “it feels like touching a nose inside of her.” It may stick out a bit and feel firmer than the area around it.
Take the time to give her a A-Spot vaginal orgasm before sex so that she is very sensitive and multi-orgasmic once sex begins.
You will stimulate her A-Spot directly using your finger. Direct stimulation to the A-Spot will give her a powerful orgasm. Communicate with your spouse to explore this pleasurable spot will be very good. You can practice it with woman on top position as your woman is in control and knows what best gives her intense pleasure.
Keep up being a Better lover.